It’s okay to be selfish sometimes

by Negeen Amirieh

It is very important to take care of yourself before you can take care of others. If you don’t know how to care for yourself how are you suppose to help others?


Put some community service in your schedule, smile at people when they pass you, or even send a nice text to friends and make their day, but don’t make decisions to please others.

This is your life and it is important to understand what you want before you go along with what others want.


For the majority of my life I said, “yes” because I knew it would make others happy, but today I realize that we are all living our lives for ourselves and if we don’t know what we want for ourselves then we can not make decisions that will benefit us. For instance, let’s say a friend texts you and says she wants to go out and party and another friend texts you at the same time and says let’s have a movie night. The old me would do both just to make both friends happy, but the me today would just choose one or the other that made me happy.


Happiness comes as you make it. It will not come with going along with what others want, it is about what you think is the best for you. If helping a friend do her project when you have millions of assignments to finish makes you happy then do it. But if it will stress you out then stay back and do your own work.


I am not saying to be selfish all the time. But you need to understand your own needs before you go off helping others and making decisions just because others want you to make them. This is your life, live it, and make your own decisions.

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